Month: August 2008

  • A Sad Day

    The sad, sad, day finally arrived this morning.  The day JoAnn and Aolani had to fly back to Washington.

    The children were aware of, but not really comprehending, the impending split that was about to happen.  TV (AGAIN) took precedence over saying good-bye.

    Aolani was wearing a gorgeous top.  Lavender with all types of beautiful embroidery embellishing it.  The purple sash tied in a satiny bow in the back.  It truly was a beautiful little top and looked good on her with her dark hair and eyes.

    In the rush of getting ready to pack up and go, I got a couple nice pictures of JoAnn with Luci, Annamarie, and Rissy.  They sure have grown to love her!

    And I was also able to get the cousins to sit still long enough to get a group photo of them!  Notice Rissy with the remote control in her hand? LOL

    Before we knew it, we were at the airport.  Yikes!!!!!  This was for real - JoAnn was really leaving!!! 

    Jesse took JoAnn's luggage up to the counter.  She just had that hernia surgery and can't lift much of anything.  Her carry on stuff was even light and Aolani was responsible for her backpack.

    The realization of them actually leaving began to hit hard as we watched them walk up to the sky cap's desk where Jesse was checking in her bags.

    After Jesse was sure that all was in order, we began our good-byes.  Poor Aolani had buried herself in JoAnn's arms and cried most of the way to the airport.

    Then Annamarie began to cry.

    JoAnn began to cry.

    Jesse began to cry.

    And, *I* (one who usually NEVER cries) joined the crying crowd.

    Bye Bye Aolani!

    Bye-bye JoAnn!  (this, by far, was the saddest picture I took)

    And, into the big (well, it "seemed" big today!!) Oklahoma City airport, that would soon carry them through the sky to Tacoma/Seattle's airport, they went.

    They had a 4 hour layover in Salt Lake City, UT (doesn't that sound horrid??? 4 hours stuck in an airport????!!!!), so they didn't want to eat before leaving, figuring eating in Utah was a good way to kill part of those 4 hours.  I absolutely did NOT want to go home to their empty room and beds.  I think Jesse and I felt shock, loss, sadness, and a little lost about what we should/needed to do next.

    So, we went out for lunch at Red Lobster.  Not like we have any business spending that kind of money, but grief makes you do crazy things.  That's the only way I can explain our restaurant splurge!

    And, just like I had thought it would be - I came home to the empty bedroom.

    No JoAnn ~

    And, no Aolani ~

    All that remained were two boxes of their stuff that made their luggage too heavy to fly without an additional luggage fee.  I had promised JoAnn I would mail it tomorrow.

    As I had wept holding JoAnn close telling her good-bye, and she was assuring me she'd be back, I suddenly told her I wasn't mailing her boxes back so I KNEW she's have to come back!!!  It at least broke the sobbing tension and we DID laugh.

    After looking in the top box, I decided I just might hang on to her things.  I saw some things in there that looked pretty important - stuff she can't live without!

    Evil, sinister me is fighting that nasty old Satan telling me (Don't send her stuff!  Don't send her stuff!) and then there is the "RIGHT THING" to do, which is to send it and pray she comes to visit again, soon.

    Yes, I'll mail the boxes tomorrow, just like I promised my dear sister-in-law!

    I'll wash their bedding, and Rissy's, AND Jesse and mine.  I'll stay busy with chores.  I'll go to the post office and I'll go to Wal-Mart (the one here in town that I hate) to buy dog food, and - I imagine - life will slowly resume it's normal routine.

    But, my heart DOES feel empty tonight.  Such is life.

    Tomorrow, I'll share some happier pictures we took yesterday while showing JoAnn her old house and around the area that has grown and changed so much on that side of town.

  • Mom's Taking a Break

    Hi!  I'm Chirper.  Chirper Elzabad.  I'm my mommy's new cat.  I think she told you about me. 

    I'll be doing Mom's blog for her today because she doesn't have much to say.

    First, I have to figure out how to get this chair scooted up closer to the keyboard.

    Okay, I think I figured it out.  Typing is easier now.  I type with just one or two claws.  No where NEAR as fast as my Mommy.

    I tried to upload some pictures, but it ended up that I had to use Mom's Xanga credits to buy Xanga Premium for one month.  I think she had too many pictures loaded and when I tried to delete some o them, it STILL wouldn't let me put new pictures in the photo area.  I hope she doesn't mind.  And, if things look different to you readers today, that's why.

    First Mom got up and fed Stormy and me breakfast.  I'm the green bowl (cause I'm a boy) and Stormy's bowl is purple (cause she's a girl).  We both made "happy bowls" by eating everything.

    After our breakfast, Stormy went back to sleep in Annamarie's and Luci's bed.  She ALWAYS wants to sleep and I never get to play with her much.  She gets mad and hisses at me most of the time (sometimes she even chases me around the house), so I left her alone this morning when I found her on the bed.  She had that look in her eyes like she'd be mad if I jumped on her and bit her ears.

    I looked for Sampson.  I love to bite at his tail when he wags it.  Mom and Dad say he hasn't barked since Jesse-boy died.  But, he barks at me whenever I jump on him, chase him, or (especially) if I bite his tail.  Well, finding him was boring.  He was sleeping harder than Stormy.

    Even Tango the cockatiel hadn't been uncovered and was still sleeping.

    Mom told everyone we have to finish up the bananas today.  She bought them a couple of days ago and they somehow got uncovered and ripened too fast.  They think I climbed up on the counter (I only climb up when they aren't home or are sleeping, so I don't know why think it was me) and clawed open up the plastic bag.

    Well, maybe I DID rip open the bag, but it's MOM who left the bar in a mess again!

    I think she loves Wal-Mart and finds any excuse to go shopping there.  I'd like to go with them sometime, but they never invite me.  I ride really well in the car.  I sit in the seat, just like Sampson our dog. 

    Anyway, I think she went shopping somewhere else with Auntie JoJo and the girls because they came home with stuff that they didn't put on the bar.  Stuff like LOTS of homeschool books!

    Do any of these look like they had me in mind when they bought books?  I don't think soooo.  I looked and didn't find one book ABOUT cats or FOR cats.  The "Biscuit" books are about a dog.  That's not even funny!!!  Oh, wait!  There's one book at the bottom that has the word "cat" in the title . . .  maybe they DO love me.

    Just about everyone in the house is asleep or too busy to play with me.  Dad is gone.  He want to Reba and Glenn's to mow their yard.  I don't know why he went.  It rained really hard yesterday in the late afternoon.  It even thundered, which always makes me really scared.  They didn't come home until the storm was almost over, so I didn't even tell them I hid under the bed and shook the whole time.  No sense in making Mom feel guilty.

    I wanted to play with the girls this morning, but they were busy watching cartoons and trying to stay quiet while Auntie JoJo and Aolani slept.  And, Mom says she's going to take a bath.  She she wasn't in a playful mood, either.  She wouldn't let me take her picture, but I got one of my girls.  They didn't look very happy when they saw me with Mom's camera.  
     

    I guess that's all I have to say this morning.  I know when Daddy comes home from his job at Reba and Glenn's house, we are going to do some fun things with Auntie JoJo and Aolani before they leave tomorrow. Well, I don't think *I* will get to go do anything fun, but Mommy always tells me where they've been and all about her day when I climb in bed with her at night.  Mom & Dad have a neat bed it's really high and has a soft mattress top.  I LOVE sleeping next to her!

    I also heard them say they were going to go out tonight for dinner and eat (gag!) Mexican food.  They never go anywhere to eat fish, 'cuz I'd kinda like *those* types of leftovers.  But MEXICAN FOOD leftovers?????  No thanks!

    Well, as Mom and Dad call me, "The BIG CHIRP" is going to say good bye.  I hope you liked my stories and pictures!

    Love,
    CHIRPER ELZABAD

  • Guess Who Friday

    Having a
    little fun here today (and God knows I need some fun in my life!!!), I will post
    guessing pictures I took last night before we went out to dinner
    (JoAnn's treat).

     Guess Who?  (Hint:  We don't see this person often)

    Guess Who?  (Hint:  Wants to be like Mrs. Hullet)

    Guess Who? (Hint:  An old animal)

    Guess Who? (Hint:  Not female)

    Guess Who?  (Hint:  A gentle and tenderhearted person with caring hands)

    Guess Who?  (Hint:  Has tons of energy)

    Guess Who?  (Hint:  Another animal, not so old)

    Guess Who?  (Yet, ANOTHER animal)

    Guess Who?  (Hint:  Another gentle and tenderhearted person with caring hands)

    Guess Who?  (Hint:  In some ways, the oldest one here last night)

    Guess Who?  (Hint:  Keeps us on our toes!)

    Guess Who?  (Hint:  A gift from God)

    Guess Who?  Any idea which female was missing from the Guess Who's Above?

    Yes, between Stormy and Chirper the corner of our rug has been chewed to shreds.  And I thought only dogs chewed and cats clawed.  But, what do I know?????  I'm just "the mom" around here!

    Have a happy week-end!

  • Thursday Thirteen #33

    Thirteen Things
    I SURVIVED THIS MONTH

    1.  August 5 - Bought Luci's gifts, wrapped them, and planned her birthday party within 3 days of her birthday.  The longest I've ever waited to pull a birthday party together.

    2.  August 12 - Waited until the same day JoAnn and Aolani were arriving to clean my house, which was a mess!

    3.  August 16 - Started all day foster care classes. They were boring (we already took the classes in 2001) and would have rather been visiting with my SIL, who was at home with our girls.

    4.  August 17 - bil said wife was having serious surgery (she had told me earlier they were contemplating spine surgery) and bil, Frank, told JoAnn he would be here to pick her up the next day, so she could help care for his wife after her surgery on the 19th.

    .5.  August 18 - Frank didn't call or show up to pick up JoAnn.  Jesse's close friend's (Camilo) son was admitted to the E.R.  Jesse stayed with Camilo's family until the doctors decided to do an appendectomy.

    6.  August 19 - We decided VERY suddenly (the night of the 18th) to drive to Amarillo to check on JoAnn's and Jesse's dad, who was to soon be admitted to an Alzheimer's facility.  A LONG BORING DRIVE TO AMARILLO with high dollar prices for gasoline!

    7.  August 20 - Bought 2-3 months worth of groceries for my in-laws, divided meat into smaller portions and froze the packages.  Drove ALL THE WAY back home.  But, stopped at a great steak place for dinner.  Everyone got sick.

    8.  August 21 - The steak dinner from the night before still left everyone feeling sick.  We all laid around the house with no motivation.  Tired from our trip and not feeling very much like eating.

    9.  August 22 - Found out good friend was innocent, but seriously involved in a law suit.  I offered to help in any way possible.  (Can't discuss details, sorry)  It was very upsetting to me that she was in serious trouble.

    10.  August 23 - More foster classes all day (not quite as bad as the first ones) and then afterwards, drove 100 miles to an Italian restaurant.  I'm NOT spontaneous and had to rearrange my train of thought.  AND, face the fact that sitting on my rear end for another couple of hours; as if sitting while driving to Amarillo and back again and then sitting in the all day foster class wasn't enough already, was about to happen to me again!

    11.  August 24 - Jesse went to work, a new guy showed up and asked if he could help, after two passes of the lawn mower, the guy cut his fingers and Jesse had to rush him to the E.R.  He said he'd be responsible for the E.R. bill (we'll pay cash - we don't have employees, so there is no worker's comp).  Meanwhile, later in the afternoon, Stephanie (oldest daughter) showed up to get a walking cast we had in our attic.  She had fallen down some stairs the night before and re-injured the same foot she had hurt when falling on our icy driveway last winter. (sigh)

    12.  August 25 - The hospital that had treated the new worker called to inform me they wanted him to go to a reconstructive surgeon (YIKES !!!!!) and our hearts stopped.  E.R. bill will be a couple thousand and contemplating the cost of a surgeon . . . well you get the panic picture! 

    That same day, I had to take Annamarie & Luci into the medical doctor for some problems they each had and was grateful for what looks like an easy fix and nothing serious. 

    Found out later in the day that the injured fingers gentleman's family has told Jesse to not pay his medical bills (Jesse still insists on the E.R. part) and they will not allow the relative to create any more medical bills for us. They think he reached under the mower on purpose to "knick" the finger tips because he thinks we are rich and could extract money from us.  We are rich - but not financially!  He has none of his family's support.

    13.  August 26 -  Previously to all of the afore mentioned drama happening, Jesse had invited his aunt and uncle to dinner to see JoAnn and our house.  So, scurry around to make it half way presentable is what we did all day.  Dinner was easy to fix and his aunt is always enjoyable to talk to because she has lots of funny stories.

    13 1/2.  August 27 - I took JoAnn to Wal-Mart (happy, happy me!  I got to go to Wal-Mart again!!! LOL) to buy her mother things her mother's food stamps won't pay for (like t-paper, cleaning products, etc.) and some extra food.  She also bought fabric for my girls to each have two new winter dresses.  I dropped her off at her mother's house and took the girls to Applebee's for a lunch of chef salad.  We dropped off a movie that was late  (again).  As I was leaving the movie rental's parking lot, I felt the beginning of a headache.  By the time I got home I had to take off my head covering and, eventually, take out my bun.  My hair felt like it hurt.  I took a headache prescription pill and dozed for half an hour, but the pain kept waking me up.  Jesse called and said he'd be home soon.  This was the first time in 35 years I've been bothered by light or sound.  My migraine problem recently resurfaced at the end of last year and I can honestly say, since my teens, I've only had about 5 headaches in my life.

    This headache was a real doozey.  I HAD to pay two bills online and did so in a stupor.  Then, I took an actual "migraine pill" (caffergot) after Jesse got home and I went to bed.  Sleep was restless because the pill contains caffeine, but I do feel much better today. 

    And, THAT, my friends, has been the busy month of August . . . BUT . . . I have survived, by the grace of God.

    P.S.  I'm going to go back through this post to check for typos.  My keyboard is acting up again and the letter "f" almost consistently doesn't work, along with a few others.  I edited yesterday's blog two or three times before I finally gave up. 

    I really DO know how to spell, but my keyboard doesn't! LOL!!!

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  • No "Excitement" Today . . . Please!

    I think this "should be" a relatively normal day.  I have to take JoAnn and Aolani to my mil's house this morning - they are spending the night.  Dinner with Jesse's & JoAnn's aunt and uncle was very nice last night.  I kept the menu simple and made meatloaf, hash brown cheese casserole, green beans, and corn.  Peach sherbet for dessert.

    Soooooooooooooo, without further delay . . . I will tell you about our Saturday night dinner after a full day of sitting through our foster care class!

    You would think that after driving to Amarillo on Tuesday and driving back on Wednesday would have been enough sitting (almost 4 hour drive each way).  And, you would think sitting on Saturday in an all day foster care class would have been even MORE than enough sitting.

    BUT, "spontaneous Jesse" decided after class, we should drive to a town (close to an hour & a half - one way) where we love to eat at an Italian restaurant.  So . . . we did.  Yes, more sitting!!!

    His friend Steve joined our family and JoAnn (Aolani was visiting her dad all week-end) shortly after our class ended and we made (deep breath, let it out slowly) yet another road trip, but this time for fantastic food!

    To pass the time, I took the camera and shot pictures of "gorgeous" Oklahoma's flat scenery that stretches for miles and miles and is occasionally broken up with a cow here and there, some "interesting" houses, and, well,  the typical stuff you see while driving through Oklahoma. 

    To get to Marlow, you take the Lawton exit from Oklahoma City and then the H.E. Bailey Turnpike.  Just getting to the turnpike takes 30 minutes of driving time from our house.  We also noticed a sign that we thought might cut that 30 minute drive time in the future - Highway 4.  We may try that the next time we drive down there to eat.

    There are tons of RV and mobile home sales lots in Oklahoma.  I have no idea why.  With all the high winds and tornadoes, I'm always amazed at those who choose mobile homes, where the potential is greater of losing all of your possessions.  Houses can't always withstand tornadoes, but the percent of damage lessens.

    Once you leave the "exciting" city full of mobile home sales lots, etc. you see exactly what you see when going/returning from Amarillo - miles and miles of flat road.  I think this trip to Marlow is a little more interesting.  There are some cities in between to break up the monotony and more people live in the vast flat areas than on the Amarillo I-40 route.

    On the south side of Oklahoma City is Oklahoma City Community College.  It's one of the last things you see before hitting the flat road of highway driving.

    The college was a last minute touch of "life" and then the long stretch of a drive began.  Lots of highway and, quickly,  we were all wearily reminded of the recent Amarillo drive!

    We saw some "pretty" and then some "fixer upper" homes as we drove LOL!!!!

    Other typical things you would see, when driving through Oklahoma, is houses that are small with very large barns and an occasional oil well pumping in a field.

    But, it felt more like this was ALL we really saw!!!

    There were pretty farms and some odd things we couldn't identify.

    And, the clouds, once again, were beautiful.

    There are more ponds when you head south, as opposed to western Oklahoma.

    And, then, more of this (!!!!!!!!!!)

    and lots of this!!!!!  LOL

    We saw calves and cattle farms, which meant we were getting close to where people ACTUALLY live!!! LOL 

    Then the sign I always love to see . . .  The one that welcomes you to Rush Springs, Oklahoma - home of the watermelon capitol of the state and watermelon festival.  Rush Springs means we are VERY close to Marlow!

    Sure enough, there it was - FINALLY!!!!

    As you first enter Marlow, it looks like any other typical small town.

    With the typical small town establishments.  What town would be complete without these familiar stores???!!!

    But, Marlow is actually a very pretty and quaint town with many interesting, old houses that line the main street that carries you in and out of Marlow.

    Unfortunately, due to the setting sun, I was beginning to get a glare from the passenger side window.  It was too hot, muggy, and the evening was beginning to bring out unwanted mosquitoes, so I didn't roll the window down.

    The streets are lines with lots of trees (where the bottom half of the trunks are ALL painted white).  There are quaint street lamps (which I succeeded in cutting off with the camera, but it was the only street lamp picture I took).

    Lots of greenery on the downtown streets EVERYWHERE, something Oklahoma City lacks.

    But the best part . . . we had arrived at our destination.  Giuseppe's!!!

    The restaurant occupies an old bank building (notice the old-fashioned wood trim and door) and it is family owned, open for business only 3 days a week.

    We've never had a bad meal there and they always recognize us as the people who drive all the way from Oklahoma City to eat!

    Inside, the heat and air ducts are exposed from the high ceilings and ceiling fans help to move the air.  There are brick walls everywhere; which, I suppose, was built to help make the original bank more secure and maybe as a firewall.  They even sell t-shirts as souvenirs!  Interesting tiles fill the ceiling.

    Steve (our heat and air friend) was the man with us and he is a few years older than me.  He almost slugged Jesse when Jesse asked him if he could still work one of those old cash registers!  He and I aren't THAT old!  But, as a child, I do remember some old stores having similar cash registers.

    The name Whitaker is tiled on the floor as you step through the threshold of the front door.  I don't know the history of the building, but assume it might have been the name of the bank.

    The restaurant was full and Jesse begged me not to take pictures while we were eating, even though every plate/bowl of food was delicious to look at.  PLUS . . . the wine cellar is the old bank's vault right in the middle o the eating area, too cool to not take pictures; but, I acquiesced.  I told him I HAD to take pictures of the restroom.  What is it with me and restrooms these days???? LOL

    I love the brick walls that are VERY worn, and the wood walls are the old small, skinny panels with shiny lacquered white paint.

    I felt more freedom to take pictures INSIDE the restroom because I was aware Jesse could see my flash going off from the hall to the restroom and I didn't want to embarrass him!

    I was fascinated with the old style of doors, as well as the hinges and door knobs.  The paint was cracked and that made it even more old-timey!


    The door even had a KEY HOLE for one of those old large keys to lock and unlock it.  How cool is that??!!!

    Music from "The Godfather" and solos sung by Dean Martin and Frank Sinatra played throughout the restaurant during our entire meal.  That being said, what Italian restaurant restroom would be complete without a portrait of both singers on the wall next to the mirror and sink?!!!

    As we were seated, I noticed a ceiling fan OUTdoors and some carved columns with beautiful iron work.  I investigated the outside after we left the restaurant and found what looked to be another door, now boarded shut, but can't figure out why there were three columns so close.  Seems someone walking in would have had to dance their way around one side or the other of those massive columns to avoid hitting them.  Maybe people were "smaller back then" and it wasn't a problem!

    It was too dark to take pictures on the way home, but they would have only been a repeat of what we saw on the way to the restaurant, anyway.

    After the grueling day Monday and all our bad news, I was VERY glad to have leftovers from Giuseppe's for our dinner!  Two days old, but still VERY tasty!  In fact, JoAnn and I ate the last of it for lunch yesterday!

    And, THAT (the trip) was the most pleasant thing that happened in these past seven very hard days of Jesse's and my life!

    Letting out a BIG BREATH (to relax), breathing slowly (as directed by Lori K), and moving on to shower and have breakfast . . . I'll say good-bye for now!

    Be blessed ~

  • Follow Up

    As if there wasn't enough drama in our lives already; yesterday, I had to take Luci and Annamarie to the doctor.  Luci has been having frequent nose bleeds and Annamarie has complained of some stomach, but mainly low back pain (I was worried about her kidneys). 

    Final diagnosis, Luci has allergies that don't show up like most people's (sneezing, itchy eyes, etc.) and the drainage is in her ears and down her throat.  We received children's allergy medication samples and told to buy something to keep her nasal passages moist. 

    Annamarie simply is constipated and has poor posture.  I already knew she had a problem with not wanting to run and play (would rather sit under a shade tree) and slumps whenever she sits or walks.  Also, she doesn't drink enough water and LOVES pasta, rice, etc. despite us serving fibrous veggies and breads.   So, the doctor looked her in the eye and told her the same things I've been saying - hoping a physician's talk would make a difference.  She gave us directions to use Miralax (sp?) which is similar to a stool softener, but more of a fiber solution. 

    Then I asked their doctor about finger injuries and reconstructive surgery.  She said there are tendons all the way up under the nail beds and you need those to bend the end of your finger.  She said the hands were the most difficult type of surgery because of the complexity of tendons, muscles, & veins and how they all interact.  She also said she felt the fact Jose had worked for Jesse less than an hour before hurting himself didn't make us liable as "Employers" and we were NICE enough to take him to an E.R. to stop the bleeding and pick up that tab, plus Jesse had given him $30 cash.  I was still not sure about what to do and prayed.

    We left to go to Wal-Mart.  I know (!!!!), AGAIN.  Shopping for my in-laws in Amarillo left my brain confused about things I thought I had just purchased for our OWN house.  JoAnn is at her mother's and she called when I was arriving at Wal-Mart to say she needed me to take her some place to fax some papers (other mil is having problems with Medicaid paying for RX's).  So, I decided to stop at McDonalds (AGAIN) instead of eating Wal-Mart's chicken strips for a late lunch.  Jesse would prefer that I shop at the Wal-Mart closer to home because the prices are cheaper and I figured I could do that when I was done driving JoAnn.  We picked up JoAnn, and while she was in Kinko's Jesse called with some good news.

    Apparently, Jesse gave Jose $30 when he left him at the E.R. to pay him for his "work time" and to help pay for any prescriptions.  The "friend chain" has reported back to us that he asked 3 other people for money to buy his medication and when THOSE people got together, they realized he'd bought more "crack" and had NOT filled his prescriptions and had more money than the $55 worth of drugs would have cost.  I guess if you nickel and dime enough people, you can become a millionaire!

    Jose CAN move his finger tips and those related to him say he has "nicked" the flesh, but it isn't a huge wound and should heal with antibiotic ointment - one of his prescriptions (the other for pain).  The specialist, as it was explained to the family member who picked him up at the E.R., was to ensure the E.R. physician hadn't missed anything major.  They didn't think surgery would be necessary, but were being cautious.  In other words, a precautionary second opinion.  The family also informed us that Jose had gotten out of jail 2 months ago (drug use) and was right back on the streets doing drugs.

    Jose's family is angry with him for "being stupid" (their words) and putting his hand under a running lawnmower and for not only "taking advantage" (their words) of Jesse, but hitting up others for cash.  Jesse has told the family he will pay the E.R. expenses, despite their begging him not to.  They have told Jose that Jesse is a wonderful person and their friend, and all of them are very angry about the financial burden placed on our family.  Many calls have been made and it came down to the family's decision that they have all refused to take Jose to the follow up appointment and have told him he can find his own ride and own money to pay for the visit.

    So, I guess it appears that the E.R. bill (still not sure of the total amount) will be our only worry.  And, after arriving home and reading how many of you were praying for us, I realized why I had suddenly felt an overwhelming peace envelop me.  At some point in my day, still not knowing the info from Jose's family, I just gave everything to God and, with the most peaceful and trusting faith, KNEW God would be our provider and answer.  It was wonderful!

    So, that's how things stand now.

    Before any of this happened, Jesse had invited an aunt and uncle for dinner tonight (to see JoAnn) and I have to come up with an idea of what to serve, set the formal table (not enough room in the kitchen) AND clean house.

    I'll have to post my picture story tomorrow, maybe.

    Thanks to each and every one of you who are praying us through this.  I have truly felt God take over as I have been able to let go!

  • Serious Prayer Request

    I have just uploaded a bunch of pictures that I will talk about tomorrow - God willing.

    Today I have a prayer request.  Yesterday was Jesse's "catch-up" day for mowing,  He mowed one commercial property that was laden with problems and that job took longer than anticipated.  The next property was a church, and church was over with by the time he and Camilo reached the property.

    A friend, of a friend, of a friend of Camilo's needed money and showed up at the church and asked Jesse if he could help.  Jesse said, "Sure!  Grab a mower."  The new guy (think his name is Jose) made two sweeps across the church lawn and began screaming.  Jesse was far away, as was Camilo (in the back of the church), when Jose came running to Jesse bleeding and hysterically screaming.

    Jesse unhitched the trailer from his truck, Camilo stayed to finish the job for Jesse and Jesse headed to the closest hospital.  He called me and said, "What should I do?" and I told him I felt the right and honest thing to do was to say that we would be the responsible party for the bill.  We don't have "employees" per se,  and we don't carry employee insurance or worker's comp - since we don't have employees.  Friends occasionally help Jesse, but they aren't employees and usually don't allow Jesse to pay them except to buy lunch.

    The GOOD news is that Jose's three underside finger tips were severed (the fleshy part, not the nail or bone) and the injury could have DEFINITELY been more serious.

    Jesse came home from the hospital with a Workman's Comp sheet for us to file.  I called the hospital back and thought I cleared up the confusion over the employee/employer *lack* of relationship and thought all was well after yesterday afternoon's discussion.

    The hospital's business office just left a message on Jesse's phone and he asked me to call them back and handle things.  I used to work for this hospital (in the E.R.) and know a little bit about the wording of things and the billing protocol.  I told Jesse to expect an E.R. bill, E.R. doctor bill, and radiology report bill.  I kept asking him what they had done for the flesh missing and he said he didn't know.  Jose had told Jesse to leave the E.R.  and he'd have another friend pick him up.

    When I called the business office back this morning, I quickly straightened out the fact that we don't have employees, nor do we carry worker's comp insurance (since we don't have worker's).  I explained Jesse had just met this guy and there was no relationship between the two of them prior to this week.

    Well, the GOOD news is that she said that she could discount our bill (since it was a cash payment) by 25%.  The not so great news is that the x-rays and E.R. visit were discounted "DOWN TO" $1203.18.  We will still have the attending physician's bill and radiologist's report to pay.  (sigh)  We'll receive those later and separately.

    But then came the scary news . . .  He was referred to a specialist for reconstructive work on his fingers (which I wondered about all along).  The title "specialist" rang and echoed terror in my ears at the possible financial burden we have offered to bear.

    We have been advised that technically he is not our problem.  He was NOT hired as an employee and, before yesterday, he was unknown to us.  Jesse's friend, Camilo, made a string of calls (via friend of a friend of a friend) and found out this guy is a known drug addict - quite possibly the reason he reached under the mower while it was running to change the height setting. 

    That doesn't change the fact that we feel somewhat responsible, as this man WAS working for Jesse, even if it was for only a half hour.

    So much has happened in our family to others that has indirectly affected our household.  It's a bit mind boggling to wrap our brains around it all.  I still believe, WITH ALL MY HEART, that God will honor us for doing the right thing.  It would have been so easy to have lied and done the wrong thing - and don't think a tempting, although fleeting,  thought didn't go through Jesse's and my mind at separate times.  I'm glad we chose to be honest, but the possibility of a much larger financial burden than we had anticipated almost takes my breath away.  Jesse doesn't know about the "specialist's" appointment scheduled for tomorrow.  I called Jesse, but he hasn't called me back.

    Jesse said the reason the man was so hysterical at first was because he had just been to a witch doctor (Mexicans have a devout Catholic faith, but a strong belief in using witch doctors, too) who said his stomach would be cut with a blade and he would die.  Jesse even asked me how to pray or help this poor guy.  All that came to mind was for Jesse to tell him, "Praise God that GOD intervened and it was only some flesh on 3 of your fingers.  God WANTS you to trust HIM with your life and not anyone else."  This man has lived in the USA for 20 years, but doesn't speak English and Jesse's Spanish is limited.  But, he DID try to convey to Jose that God had intervened.

    Please pray with us that we are able to meet this injured man's medical bills.  And please pray that, since we did the right thing, God will honor us by making a clear path for us financially.  It may be that all we pay for is the E.R. trip; and, it will be Jose's burden to pay for any reconstructive surgery he chooses.  I just don't know.  We're praying God directs our paths to do the RIGHT thing, but not be taken advantage of by someone who is a crack user and may be needing money.

  • Sunday View of our Bathrooms

    Hi!  I'm here for a moment.  Jesse left early to catch up on mowing (i.e. some churches before their services started!!!) and will be gone all day trying to do some of the 20 houses he is behind mowing from his list.  Everyone slept late except for me.  I watched "church TV" (Charles Stanley) this morning and the other people in the house began to slowly make their way to the den.

    We had our foster classes yesterday - all day - and the contents were mainly depressing facts they have to teach about WHERE these children have lived.  But, the happy part of yesterday, we went to a little town called Marlow for dinner, about an hour's drive from where we live.  I'll post pictures from that dinner trip  another time.

    This morning, I ran across these few pictures that I thought were cute or funny . . . IF you are an animal lover.  Rissy took these yesterday while we were at class.

    This is Chirper in the girls' bathroom contemplating the bathtub on TOP of the tub.

    Finally, the mesh bath puff was too tempting, and in the tub he jumped and played, according to Rissy.

    Seeing Rissy's pictures (and pictures of one of our bathrooms!!!!!)  reminded me that I had some of Sampson, our dog, that I had never put on Xanga.

    First:  get a grip!  most people don't take pictures of their bathrooms and post them! but, I have to show you the size of our master bathroom so you'll have a better understanding of Sampson's new habit of moving his bedding from place to place within our bathroom.  No telling where we'll find him next, or WHY he keeps moving around!

    My side of the bathroom (sink and closet)

    Jesse's side of the bathroom (sink and closet)


    Full view from the double door entry to the bathroom (that's Stormy's tail!!!!!)

    The point being, the bathroom is large.  I think we measured it once and it was 10 feet by 17 feet - lots of room to move around.  And move around, Sampson does.  Pulls his blanket with his teeth, or scoots it with his nose.  We find him in the oddest places at times.  The most dangerous place is, usually, in the middle of the night.  He parks himself right inside the entry doors and we hit a warm body with our bare feet and our eyes still half closed as we enter the restroom!

    This was taken right smack in the doorway in between Jesse's and my sinks.  A DANGEROUS place for him in the dark of the night when we need to use the restroom!!!


    And this was taken closer to the chair by Jesse's closet.  He's almost under the chair and has part of Jesse's rug rolled up under his blanket.

    We thought, at first, the bedding in front of the tub was too close to the litter box and, perhaps, the smell bothered him.  But, he sometimes PURPOSEFULLY pulls his bedding back in front of the tub!  Your guess is as good as ours as to why our pets enjoy the bathrooms so much.  I understand one of the litter boxes for the cats is in our bathroom and that's why the cats are in the bathroom and sometimes explore; but, Chirper playing in the girls' tub and Sampson all over our bathroom is a mystery to us!

    Even Jesse-boy used to wait for us to finish our showers and then go in the shower stall and drink the water from the floor and plastic step stool we keep in there.  I can't imagine a wet soapy floor could taste better than fresh water in his bowl!!!!!  But, that was our Jesse-boy!!!

    Hope you animals lovers get a giggle from our strange pets and their odd behaviors!

    Happy Sunday!

  • Edit to Earlier Post

    You know, I just re-read the beginning of what I posted this morning and came across this sentence:

    "There is a huge (I mean HUGE) cross with the 12 stations Jesus walked on the south side of I-40 just outside of Amarillo."

    I think what I meant to say was:

    On the south side of I-40, just outside of Amarillo, there is a huge (I mean HUGE) cross with the 12 stations Jesus walked.

    Not that Jesus hasn't walked on the south side of I-40 just outside of Amarillo (or couldn't walk there or anywhere else He wanted to walk), but that's wasn't exactly what I was trying to convey1

    All home schooling parents are free to use my, above, faux pas as an example of misplaced clauses - or whatever that's called.  It's been a long time since I had to teach 8th grade grammar and punctuation!

    Laughing at myself today!  REALLY LOL

    If you only knew how "dumb" I've been this whole day. 

    I told one friend, I think I might need some R & R!!!!!


  • Drive Home from Amarillo

    WARNING!!!!!   This will be loaded with LOTS of pictures and a little narration! 

    As I said, yesterday, I discovered my camera (FINALLY) when we had driven about 30 minutes out of Amarillo.  That is where my story will begin.

    There is a huge (I mean HUGE) cross with the 12 stations Jesus walked on the south side of I-40 just outside of Amarillo.


    We've never stopped there, well JoAnn said she did once, but  you can see so much from the highway because of the enormous size of the cross.  We love seeing it when we are on our way to Amarillo, because it gives us the hope that our long ride is almost complete!

    It had rained in Amarillo, just like it had been raining in our part of Oklahoma, and there were large puddles in fields to prove the intensity of rainstorms they had received.

    Somehow, I missed the sign that said we were entering Oklahoma's border.  Actually, if I remember correctly, a truck pulled along side of my window as our vehicle passed the "Welcome to Oklahoma" sign.   But I could tell because the terrain changed immediately!

    Texas terrain.

    Oklahoma terrain.

    How does the state of Oklahoma know to grow "RED MUD" immediately at the border?????!!!!!

    Sandwiched somewhere around the border was a group of cattle and red mud.


    Despite the fact I moved to Oklahoma a long time ago
    (in 5 more days it will be 36 years) , I snickered at the comparison of Texas "mountains" and Oklahoma "mountains" seeing that I grew up on streets with hills more steep than these "mountains"!!!

    Texas Mountains

    Oklahoma Mountains

    The defining factor being Oklahoma's red mud!

    I apologize to those Texans: Abby, Alyssa, Lezlie, Janet, Tara, and possibly Lori K. (depending on Lori K's remaining Texas affection!) for making fun of your mountains.  I know there are "real" mountains in other parts of Texas, as well as mountains in SE Oklahoma.  But, I'm always unimpressed with the stature of what most Texans and Oklahomans call "mountains" compared to the Sierra Mountains where I was raised!

    I'll throw in a few interesting pictures we saw to help us break up the monotony of the drive home.

    The thrill of seeing cheaper Oklahoma gas and someone else on a longer trip than us driving across the great plains!

    A different way (in Oklahoma) of saying, "Feed Your Family"  LOL

    A fountain in the middle of a pond in (what appeared to be) the middle of no where!

    "Cherokee Rattlesnake Gifts & Souvenirs" - a place we didn't feel it necessary to stop and view!!!!

    This picture should have been first, as it was while we were still in Texas.  I think this is Texas's version of Italy's "Leaning Tower of Pisa" - or some such thing.  This tower has been this way for years and years and I'm not sure why no one does anything about it - unless it makes for interesting scenery and they've decided to leave it - AS IS.

    There was A lot of rusted stuff on our way home.  A yard full of pipes & parts and some rusted silos.


    But mainly, this is what we saw for most of the L-O-N-G D-R-I-V-E home!!!!!

    and this,

    and this (the mileage signs were always interesting!)

    And this

    And, finally, this

    The size of all of these boring pictures have been enlarged to give you the full scope of HOW BORING the drive is between Amarillo and Oklahoma City!  Believe me - flat and BORING!

    Then, I noticed the clouds . . .

    And thought they were much more interesting than the miles & miles of flat asphalt!

    They became more and more beautiful as I continued to snap the camera facing the sky.

    Some were spectacularly gorgeous!

    We became a little giddy (due to the boredom overtaking us) and started in with our best Jeff Foxworthy voices saying, "You might be a redneck if . . . " as we saw what "should have been" abandoned homes out in the middle of nowhere.



    Then, the guilt (from making fun of houses) condemned us and we ceased our impolite judgments and comments.

    As we came into Clinton, OK for a rest stop, we saw an interesting museum that we had had no clue existed.

    Because of the sun's position, no matter where I stood, I couldn't get the full picture of this neat car.  I kept seeing more of myself in the window rather than the car, itself.  So this was the best I could do.

    You can see, in the back of the room, some old fashioned booths and tables and a juke box.

    We stopped only briefly and then said our "bye-bye" to the museum - which was closed, anyway!!!

    That's when we headed to "Montana Mike's" (in the same town - Clinton) with high hopes of ordering some delicious steaks.

    This is part of the decor inside.

    Our appetites were HUGE and so were our expectations of receiving a juicy steak meal.  Jesse and I had told JoAnn how wonderful this place was (when we went to one in Kansas) and so everyone's excitement level was quite high and hopeful!!!!!

    Aolani with JoAnn

    And, "The Purple P. children" - Rissy, Annamarie, & Luci

    I was also wearing my purple dress - so we made quite a statement as we walked in (almost bouncing!) anticipating our steak dinners!

    WHICH SOON BECAME ONE OF OUR WORST RESTAURANT EXPERIENCES (NIGHTMARES????)  IN OUR ENTIRE RESTAURANT HISTORY!

    When we first walked in and saw this word on the sign over the door.  We SHOULD HAVE taken it as a warning and done exactly as the sign said!!!!   EXIT!!!!!

    Since I described our horrible experience yesterday, I won't repeat myself.

    Needless to say, this was the last picture I took.  We all got in the car feeling "not right" and drove the last hour to our house feeling worse and worse, as we passed Tums around to each other.

    Arriving at our house never looked so good!  Some were still sick yesterday, so it was a low key afternoon and evening with a mild dinner of chicken breasts, macaroni & cheese, and green beans.  That was about the only thing that sounded appealing to those of us still feeling a little "meh!"  I had had an allergy attack in the car after leaving the restaurant (much like a food allergy attack from bell peppers, but not quite as bad) and noticed yesterday the capillaries in my cheeks were broken - like I had been straining.  The only thing that I had strained was withholding my temper from erupting back at the restaurant!

    So, there you have our trip and the humor we tried to interject on the way home.  Finding my camera AFTER we saw family members was a bummer and I truly am praying the Kodak disposable camera took some good pictures.

    Today I'm taking JoAnn to their mother's hospital's pharmacy to pick up prescriptions for her (my mil).  Their mom is in Louisiana, but is coming home this week-end to see JoAnn.   Aolani left last night to see her dad again and, hopefully, their visit won't be cut short by another emergency trip out of town!  I have to make a bank deposit (never did it earlier this week) and the girls have their therapy appointment this afternoon.

    I talked with my sil (Frank's wife) yesterday evening and what had been done to her hand was carpal tunnel syndrome surgery.  They DID decide to  work on the site of her pain and numbness before messing with her spine.  It was severe (the carpal tunnel damage) and her doctor can't guarantee she will regain feeling in her middle finger or thumb.  She said the pain from the surgery site was more tolerable than the pain she had been in BEFORE surgery, so it must have been pretty bad.  She expects to return to work after Labor Day.

    Guess this has been more than anyone wanted to spend time reading on this lovely Friday - so, I'll say "bye" for now.