June 8, 2008
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Good-Bye Sunday
This morning, Lori K’s family and the girls and I (we have pending storms and Jesse had to mow so he wouldn’t get behind) went to church together and then had to say good bye as her family headed off to church camp.
Church was great (sermon-wise) and Luci was horrible (DIVA-wise). I had to take my 3 children outside and sit them on benches in the atrium area. Luci continued to whine about everything under the sun. Finally after hearing, “I’m cold” 92 million times, I opened the outside door and set her rear-end down and walked back inside. I could see her through the glass, so I could keep an eye on her and so no one would steal her. But the glass wasn’t necessary, nor was the fear of someone stealing her, as she screamed and kicked and threw another screamin’ meany fit. I definitely knew (because I could hear her and so could the people in the back pews, I’m sure) she hadn’t run off, and I seriously doubted anyone would try to steal a child acting like that! I refused to leave early and waited in the atrium for communion. I slipped through the sanctuary doors to the back row for communion and then sat back in the atrium (now Annamarie was outside with Luci, who was still screaming and kicking). I waited for the offering plate to be passed and slipped back into the sanctuary. I put my “two cents” in and whispered to Lori’s daughter I was taking the girls to the car and would wait there until the service was over. I WAS NOT A HAPPY CAMPER!
I was able to go back inside and say hello to a few people after the service ended and then gave hugs the Lori K. family saying “good bye.” They invited us to lunch, but I felt it was best to get Luci home and deal with her (punishment) ASAP. Unfortunately, I let her get to me this time and was feeling furious and not controlling myself well at all.
I ended up with a headache (slept for 3 hours this afternoon, so my anti-anxiety drugs must be at the correct level). I still have that nagging headache feeling after taking some Excedrin. I didn’t have much of an appetite, but ate a hotdog and drank some V-8 Infusion juice, so I wouldn’t have a low blood sugar problem to deal with, too! If my headache isn’t gone by bedtime, I’ll go ahead and take my “mild” headache pills (Fiorinal w/Codienne).
I have some great pictures and stories from the Lori K’s family visit, and tomorrow I’m sure I’ll feel better, so I’ll start posting stories and pictures soon!
We had a great time, and we said they were welcome to come again next year a little early before their camp started This was WONDERFUL – spending time with Lori. Well, you’ll hear more about it later!
I need to RELAX (ROFLOL!!!!), or at least try to, before going to bed!
Comments (10)
I’m Lori’s friend Gina. E-mail me at ginaATstacysDOTorg.
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Am sorry your Sunday went this way but so glad you had a great visit!
Waiting for the stories of your time together.
Tina
So sorry about your Sunday. I pray for better days ahead. Thank you so much for praying for my dad. His sore is just about gone and he has recovered very nicely from surgery. So sweet of you to ask. Blessings.
I’m sorry I missed you! Robert had the lesson at another congregation, so I headed out to Capitol Hill with him.
Poor you! Poor Luci! What usually “sets her off” when she gets these tantrums? I know some of the “emotionally disturbed” kids I have dealt with in school situaitons would act up whenever they felt insecure and wanted attention. It is so hard with kids like this, isn’t it? When they are being so naughty, the inclination is to not give them any attention, but sometimes, they are being naughty because they so much need our reassurance. It is so hard to know what to do, and no matter what the reason for the tantrum, it is still not acceptable, and like you said, you have to give consequences. I don’t know how you find the energy to keep up with your little ones! God bless you and give you strength and wisdom, my friend. I hope you are feeling better today.
I hope that you are feeling better today. I hope that Luci has diffused and today will be a better day.I wish that you could find a solution and ‘magic fix’ for her behavior. Until then, I pray that God continues to give you the strength and wherewithal to continue to handle your very full plate.
Love you! Give my Rissy a special hug. I have not forgotten what I was going to email her…the hospital visit and stay sorta messed up my ‘plans.’ *sigh*
Oh Cheryl, I’m so sorry that happened.. I’m thankful you guys had a great visit and hopefully you’re really able to rest today. I’m praying for Luci also.
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Luci’s diagnosis is “Oppositional Defiance Disorder” – so what set her off was simply my expectation of her to be quiet in church (which she has successfully done for many years) and her opposing that and defying me. She kicked the pew in front of us until I threatened to cut off her feet. (LOL) She complained that she couldn’t see, so I put her on my lap and she still complained she couldn’t see “everyone.” Then (much against my way of doing things) I gave her a caramel when she said she was thirsty, hoping it would glue her teeth together so she could no longer talk!!! Then, she had to go to the bathroom – Annamarie too her. Then Lori’s daughter had Luci’s Bible and it “wasn’t fair” – she wanted it back. Then, she wanted to know (loudly), “How much longer until that man stops talking?” and also asked, “When do we get to go home.” She began to whine and that’s when we made our departure to outside of the sanctuary. It’s the same anywhere we go.
I WILL add, by evening when my headache had settled in, I was very honest and said Luci’s behavior had given me a headache and I hurt really bad. The “kind” part of Luci drew pictures all night long so I would get well. She’s not a completely defiant brat 100% of the time, but those moments when she IS defiant and a “brat” are horrendous and take so much patience to get me through them!
Whew!
“For it is precept upon precept, precept upon precept, line upon line, line upon line, here a little, there a little.” Is 28:10 I often thought of that while our children were growing; it takes sooooooo much repeating of discipline and patience to train them. But then I think of myself and doesn’t it take that for the Lord to deal with me? How often I stumble and fail esp for me in the area of the tongue. Don’t get discouraged dear sister; keep pressing on for the goal! I am confident that the day will come when you will be rewarded for your efforts!!